Our Army Life: Acknowledgement
This post introduces a new series that I’ll feature on Jet Set With Mary, discussing all things Army life related.
When Pete and I started talking seriously about what life would be like if he were to stay in the Army post-marriage, we looked at this decision from every angle. How would this affect our life and financial goals? How would this affect our future kids’ lives? How would this affect our relationship with our families and close friends?
We wanted to make this decision with our eyes wide open, knowingly acknowledging certain things. This acknowledgement was an important part of the journey for me; as an independent woman, it was challenging to think of a life that I partially couldn’t control. I asked myself, “Are you okay to let the Army determine where you’ll live for the next 15 years? What does this mean for me professionally? Do you want to be an Army wife? Do you accept essentially being a single mom while Pete is deployed?” It might sound strange to ask a lot of these questions when Pete and I are currently fancy-free and without children. But, we both thought it prudent to at least ask the questions so that we weren’t caught off-guard when these situations arise.
Keep in mind, too, that I asked these questions to genuinely figure out how I felt about this potential change. Prior to meeting Pete I had very limited exposure to anything related to the armed forces. Sure, some of my relatives and friends were/are part of them, but no one that I was particularly close to. So, I had very little first-hand experience with it. Agreeing to a life of the unknown can be a bit daunting, and I didn’t want to make that decision lightly. (Pete was a bit more comfortable with the decision since he already knew all about what to expect in an Army life.)
One of the things that helped comfort me throughout our decision-making is Pete’s past experience with the Army. He first became familiar with the Army as a cadet at West Point. After graduation, he entered in as an officer and gave back his required service. (Note: At West Point, you pay for your education with years served in the Army post-gradation. Pete’s length of service was five years.) He has a great network of Army football friends (he played on the team during his tenure at West Point) and everyone that I’ve met through his circle of friends has been incredibly welcoming, smart, and engaging. If they are any indication of what to expect within the Army family, I look forward to meeting more people like them throughout our Army life.
After making our decision, these are some things I’ve come to accept and acknowledge.
- Travel (i.e. moving around the world) is part of the deal. Not surprisingly, this is one acknowledgement I’m quite happy about.
- Pete will be deployed several times throughout our marriage together.
- My life has partly been given to the Army. This lifestyle doesn’t affect just Pete — it also affects me, personally and professionally.
Right now, I’m very thankful that Pete and I both have adventurous spirits. This joy in living and experiencing new things should be helpful assets as we begin our Army life together.
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